Emotional pothole alarm! It went off. Lights flashing. Sirens screaming in a dozen disharmonic tones. A few deep breaths, ground myself, and the lights vanish. The sirens silence. And it’s just a minor nuisance. Time to go on with the rest of my day.
But boy, when people misunderstand me, it stands on all my emotional landmines and potholes. I forget that’s the case until I get my emotional potholes inadvertently walked in. Yes, I now know why. And yes, I can talk myself out of the potholes and explosions so much easier than I used to be able to. I should like to disarm some of them, but I’ll take quick-n-eezy defusing for now. Heck, forever if I can’t disarm them.
A few minutes of freaking is a vast improvement over tumbling down into freakville for days, weeks or months. Yay!
Babbled by Immi.
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I know what you mean by things affecting you for a long time after they happen. It’s good that this doesn’t happen anymore.
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So, do you think this is a result of DBT and the skills? Just wondering. That’s what came to mind when I read this, because I think I’m much better at this now, too.
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Laura – Definitely good.
WC – I think DBT has helped a ton. Other stuff has also helped, I’m sure. But DBT gets a whole lot of the credit.
Wow, that’s awesome that you can ground yourself again so quickly. What a difference ‘eh!
I hope defuse edges closer to disarm the more you practise this stuff. *crosses several million digits on that one*
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CK – Big diff. LOL on the several million digits, but thanks for the thought.
Congratulations! That skill takes a long time to master. There have been times when I couldn’t get jangled but that was only because I was a million miles away from everyone. This is so real – to get stepped into, size it up and tell it to go away. Great!
John
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John – ‘”m far from perfect with it, but I keep working at it. And I’m a ton better at it than I used to be.