I actually wrote this on July 7th. Back before I quit the group I mention in it. The thing I wonder is why I put up with so much for so long. Must be a mental problem 
Dear Assholes (Collectively),
There are many good people around in this group, but also abusive, mean-spirited people taking advantage of the good ones. If you’re honest with yourself, you know whether you’re a good person who tries but may make mistakes at times, or an abusive asshole. But being as you’re assholes, you’re probably not honest with yourself either. Nonetheless…
You have perpetuated this type of garbage on this group for the last two years, which the the volunteers in this group have had to deal with on a ongoing basis. Most of this garbage is because different volunteers were trying to help someone out, and that is infuriating.
Yes, garbage. Embarassing, nasty garbage like this:
- Starting hanging out with the group only when they need money that the group would raise.
- Insisting that raised funds be sent directly in cash (yes, US treasury notes called dollars) to the
person instead of directly sent to the doctor providing the care.
- Refusing free air transportation for their seriously ill pet to get to a veterinarian to get free life-saving surgery plus free fostering until the kitty is well enough to return home, all because the indivdual could not get from the group a free airline ticket and reimbursement of time lost from work to travel with the pet, then the same individual still wanted donations to pay large veterinary fees because of refusing this overwhelmingly generous offer.
- When people generously donated, the recipient contacting the donors repeatedly to send more money.
- Expecting people from the group to risk their own homes in order for the people to help them instead.
- Begging for and taking money and time from people who are far worse off than the people demanding the donations.
- Fundraising recipients insisting that they get X amount of money, including extra money to pay for
extras, which no one had even heard about until after the fundraising was done.
- Niggling at people over and over again to give money for doctor bills, vet bills, rent, etc etc, even when they’ve receive hundred or thousands of dollars of financial help as gifts, in one case over $20,000 from one unbelievably generous donor, and all this when they are posting or emailing that they are buying expensive luxury items weekly like multiple DVD players, blackberries, and whatnot.
- Trying to guilt people into donating more at auctions by making up pity stories about the items being
auctioned.
- Threatening to kill themselves and their pets if people don’t give them money or otherwise do what the individual wants.
- Fundraising recipients who are being given hundreds of dollars a week over a few weeks getting upset because the volunteers are stopping doing fundraising for them.
- Contacting the volunteers and insisting that they do a fundraiser immediately because they need
money immediately.
- Begging people from the group to take that person’s pets to save them, then when it’s arranged or a few days after volunteers have been working furiously to make it happen, out of the blue they back out. So far this has happened 3 times that I know of.
- Telling members of the group that the person doing the telling had been blackballed from the group when no such thing had been done or even discussed.
- Helpers spreading confidential information around even when they’ve promised to keep it confidential.
- Cajoling, hinting, then insisting to group volunteers that they must raise funds and pay for luxury items that aren’t necessary for the health or welfare of anyone, to the tune of thousands of dollars, over 10 to 50 emails to a volunteer or volunteers.
- After a volunteer had created a website from scratch, the lady the site was made for telling the volunteer that they don’t want her to help with their website, they want someone good to do
it instead.
- Arguments and blame over what news got posted on the news site “in favor” of others because we put up the first news about a happening, and don’t choose to post the same news 5 times just because 5 people send it in back to back.
- Being attention seeking, dishonest, argumentative, passive-aggressive, backbiting, ad nauseum when dealing with the volunteers and other members of the group.
- Assuming and telling others that this volunteer group would be raising lots of money for them on a weekly basis and directing others to the group because we’d raise funds for them.
- Whining and groaning that they can’t do it –such as organizing parties for a friend or making cards — and so insisting rudely that the volunteers must do it for them.
- Running around behind a volunteer’s back and saying the volunteer was talking about them behind their back, which was ironic at best.
- Harping on volunteers about how other volunteers are bad or otherwise unsavory.
- Accusing and saying that various volunteers did things they didn’t do.
- Saying at parties that the someone is dead, when when they are not.
- Refusing to even attempt learn the technology necessary to do what they want to do online, and then being pissy and self-pitying and insisting that folks from the group do their personal work for them immediately. Not asking, insisting.
- Death threats against a person’s pets over some imagined “take over” thing that has neither occurred nor been planned.
- And so on.EXCUSE ME? Do you not see the problem, people???? The group has been trying to be
helpful and giving and this kind of crap is is given back to them? For two years? It’s amazing that any of the volunteers put up with it that long.If one of the above shoes fits you, wear it and live with it. Don’t bug me or anyone else in the group with your mewling self pity. I don’t care if you are so stupid that you can’t see that asking for thousands and thousands of dollars for trash that’s not needed when you can afford diamonds and luxury vacuums and cd players etc, or otherwise take advantage of people trying to help is not a good thing to do. I am not interested in apologies, or whining or self-pity. I doubt anyone else is either.
As someone said in a comment on the news site, “GROW UP!” There are natural consequences to everything anyone does, and we all have to live with that. The natural consequences of behaving ungratefully, thoughtlessly, greedily, and cruelly are that people don’t want to deal with you any more, and they sure won’t continue to help you. They may pity you, but they don’t want to deal with your garbage, demands, self-pity, or your company any more.
I’ve had it with you, and so have others. Every one of you abusive assholes. Go to hell. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. You’ve already gotten far more than $200 worth of time, effort, and in some cases cash. You no longer rate anything at all.
Sincerely,
A Schmuck Who Won’t Be Taken for a Ride Again
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